GUEST BLOGGER – NATALIE

At some point we have to commit to something don’t we? And I don’t just mean relationships. Society thinks most men are commitment phobes but show me a man who hasn’t got a mobile phone contract, gym membership or magazine subscription. Many of my female friends shun commitment (one friend doesn’t even want to commit to a mobile phone contract), so the idea of owning a house with a mortgage scares them, and why not? If in you are in a rented property and the water stops, call the landlord. Need a new cooker? It’s the landlord’s responsibility. Wait hold on, it’s your OWN HOME? Better get on to wonga.com.

When you’re dating it gives you the chance to see if you even like each other. Who’s not been on a bitterly disappointing first date? Thank goodness there’s no contract to sign at the start of the evening; half the time we’d be trying to buy our way out of it before we ordered dessert. I think there is an unfair view that the woman on the date will want that man just because they want a man. Why are we always looked at as desperate? I knew a girl who went on dates because she liked meeting new people and said “A girl’s gotta eat, why not combine it with a date?” Dating always seems to have a more relaxed attitude in America, here your mates will be texting you to see if he’s The One while your still checking out the menu. 

Not all women want to run up the aisle and have lots of babies crawling around their feet RIGHT THIS SECOND. There are women who want to get ahead in their careers, some want to travel, others think they’re too young; there are loads of reasons not to settle down right now. With women there’s always that clock that’s tick-tick-ticking, and my God aren’t we reminded of it by everyone? Any woman over 20 gets THAT question at most family gatherings, parties or whenever there are babies on the scene. 

 “So, when are you having kids?” 

“When I’m bloody well ready, ALRIGHT??”

 Which can be followed by, “So you want to be an OLD mum?”

“Piss off.” (Optional). 

Commitment can make you feel safe and secure but I’ve also seen how trapping it can be. I’ve seen couples who bought a house together, only to spilt up then have to go through solicitors to try and see who put what in. It’s pretty sad and the worst break-ups would probably end up slicing up their life on Judge Judy. 

Like everything, it’s how YOU feel; no one else is living your life. I just hate the fact it’s men who seem to think they have all the power at the beginning of relationships. Why should they decide if you are in a relationship? Why does it always seem to be us that’s waiting around for a call or a text? I wonder if any men do that? But then again if a woman calls the man first, people might think she’s desperate. Maybe it’s just that she enjoyed your company and wants to go out again. That’s all, don’t think all women are desperate because they’re not. Trust me mate, don’t think you’re doing her a favour by texting her a week later. Dating is truly a MINEFIELD.

When you’re with the right person, you just know; you work hard on your relationship but it shouldn’t be hard work. When me and my boyfriend decided to get together, we never made a massive thing about it. Possibly the biggest thing we did was change our relationship status on Facebook. 

Chances are, we all will commit to something big in our lives; but that doesn’t mean it has to be marriage, a mortgage or kids. For me the next thing I am committing myself to is the West Wing DVD box set. 

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